ouch!

is this guy for real? you compliment the nail “sho babes that nail looks good on you”

It's a Marty Feldman "moment" - "Hump? What Hump?"

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The denial reminds me of the guy in "Monty Python and the Holy Grail" who, despite losing all four limbs in the encounter, is still agressively thirsting for a fight. "Just a flesh wound", he says. "Come on and fight, you coward!".

It's a River in Egypt.

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I've seen this and thought it was a great example of excellent writing, acting and execution yet it was a very simple idea.

Marc, I think you've nailed it.

The clip has its serious side too.

The world needs people who listen and comfort, as well as people who can fix problems. If we are good at only one, then we should practice to improve our skills on the other. Those who know "Pride and Predudice" may remember Elizabeth's advice to Darcy at one point, when he indirectly admitted to being shy with strangers and therefore appeared to be proud.

It is also popularly described as those who are left-brain dominant versus right-brain dominant. We should use both halves of our brain to our best ability.

Hmm... this seems to be about the fact that Men like to fix things and Women like to commiserate. When a women is telling you her problems, he's not looking for an answer; she's looking for empathy. The sooner you bite your tongue and figure this out, the happier your life becomes. ;-) (...it really isn't about the nail at all)

~jr

Video is a wonderful way to hammer the point home.

You know, there's a practical advantage here, too. When she goes to a bar it will keep guys from staring at her chest while talking to her.

I wrote a long comment right after Laurence posted, but on reading it back, I decided not to post it.

See how much I've learned from living with the saaaame woman for 45 years.

To paraphrase Kenny Rogers:

"You've got to know when to hold 'em."

"Know when to fold them."

Know when to shut up.

Firstly, the video is excellent. Secondly, it expresses a male viewpoint that all problems are nails. In fact most human issues do not have nice solutions and just talking through clarifies many aspects for the speaker. You will all have had times when just describing a technical problem to a colleague has given you the solution without his input. Verbalising involves ordering and considering the relative weights of the factors involved. In a technical problem those weights and factors are language in common, but not where emotions are concerned. Never offer solutions for friends' marriage problems -- just listen, be sympathetic, be there, and hug.

Never offer solutions for friends' marriage problems -- just listen, be sympathetic, be there, and hug

very very good advice serena. i think most baby-boomers have by now seen their fair share of divorces, and the fall-out they incur.

that said, it took me a couple of goes as well.

Serena, your post makes me wish this forum had a Facebook style "like" button. Well said.

" . . just listen, be sympathetic, be there . . .

In the world of counselling it is called "positive regard".